Happy New Year

January 5th, 2011

So, it’s the end of another season of festivities and I hope you’ve enjoyed it to the full.

Now it’s that period when most of us tighten our belts (literally and metaphorically!) to counter what we’ve spent and consumed during Christmas. I always used to think that this time of year was a bit of a drag. Months of winter left, holiday used up, that general Christmas good cheer all but gone. Roll on spring!

Now though I see it as a time to really work out what I want the year to bring – because if you don’t set any aims or goals then you’ll just end up drifting wherever life takes you. Goals don’t have to be big and they certainly don’t have to be small. When you focus on what you want, you might just realise that with a bit of planning, more self-belief and doing a little something everyday then you could find it surprisingly easy to achieve goals that last year you could only dream about.

Without any action on your part, is anyone else suddenly going to pick you up, point you in a certain direction and spoon feed you all the way to a desirable outcome? Highly unlikely! It’s up to you to take responsibility. And when you do, just think how your world will change!  

If you’d like a free chat about what you’d like to change during 2011, then please do get in touch and I’ll be delighted to help.

Wishing all the best to you, your families, friends and colleagues during 2011.

David

David Harding offers help with phobias, stop smoking, confidence, direction, weight loss, negative emotions, coaching amongst many other things. He helps clients from a wide geographic area around Limpsfield, Oxted and Bletchingley in Surrey, including Redhill, Reigate, Crawley, Sevenoaks and Croydon. He is a certified Master Practitioner of NLP, Time Line Therapy™ and is a qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist.

Visit www.david-harding.co.uk for more information.

Stop Smoking

December 9th, 2010

There are many reasons for giving up smoking. Maybe you want to be healthier, save some money, get rid of that smell of cigarettes on your clothes, set a better example for your children, live longer.

So what would happen if you did stop smoking? How soon could you get those things you want?

And what’s stopping you from making that change right now?

It’s amazing to look back over your life and see all the changes that you’ve made. Some may have felt more difficult to make than others. So when you decide to quit smoking, how easy can you make it?

It’s a great time to decide that 2011 will ring in the new you. If you’d like to have a chat about stopping smoking then please give me a call on 0800 612 6540 or 07527 820833 to arrange a free initial appointment. 

Enjoy the run up to Christmas and stay safe in the cold weather! :-)

David

David Harding offers help with stop smoking amongst many other things. He helps clients from a wide geographic area around Limpsfield, Oxted and Bletchingley in Surrey, including Redhill, Reigate, Crawley, Sevenoaks and Croydon.

Visit www.david-harding.co.uk for more information.

Resolutions

November 4th, 2010

It’s coming up to that time of year when you might be thinking of things that you’d like to do differently.

What can you see yourself changing?

Is there something you’ve wanted to do for ages?

What would happen if you stopped doing something you’ve wanted to give up for ages?

If any of this rings true for you then why wait for the new year? Why not start now? If it’s something you can do on your own then great. If you’d like some help then get in touch.

You might surprise yourself how easy it is!

Best wishes

David

Getting What You Focus On

May 19th, 2010

Do you often wonder why you’re stuck back in the same old place where you definitely don’t want to be?

Have a listen to yourself and maybe those around you.

People tend to be very good at knowing what they don’t want, but not quite so good at saying what they do.

A good example of this is when someone is looking to lose some weight. They might say something like “I don’t want to be overweight. I don’t want to wear unfashionable clothes. I hate feeling unattractive. I don’t want to be unhealthy. Being so lethargic and having such a lack of energy is really getting me down.”

Ok, so here’s an interesting thing. Your mind cannot directly process a negative.

Go ahead and do this simple example – think of anything in the whole world (or even universe) but do not, and I mean definitely not, think of a blue elephant.

 Right, I don’t know exactly what your blue elephant looks like, is wearing or what it’s doing, but you are thinking of one aren’t you!

 Back to the subject of weight. What are diets doing? Well, they’re telling you what you’re ‘allowed’ and also in a big way what you’re not allowed – and they’re called things like sins, forbidden food etc. If you’re told “Don’t eat cake. Don’t eat chocolate”, your mind is processing it as “Eat cake…don’t. Eat chocolate…don’t.” How much more difficult does this make it?

 So, how would it be if you focus on what you actually want?

Healthy, radiant skin, full of energy, physically fit, a certain dress/trouser size, able to walk/run/cycle a certain distance, eating healthy foods, confident, attractive, feeling great, happy!

Well, I suggest that you’re in a completely different, and better place.

And this can apply to any area of your life.

 

Why not give me a call or send me an email to see how I can help you change your way of thinking and move you towards what you really want! 

 Best wishes

David

 David Harding Adv DHyp MHA MANLP MTLTA™  is a qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master Practitioner of NLP, Master Practitioner of Time Line Therapy™ and Life Coach. He helps clients from his home town of Oxted on the Surrey/ Kent border, and also a wide surrounding area including Westerham, Sevenoaks, Orpington, Caterham, Croydon, Redhill and Reigate.

Cause or Effect?

February 24th, 2010

Welcome to the first of many blogs that I hope will be of use to anyone wanting to make some changes in their life.

 So, out of a myriad of subjects where shall I start?! So much to discuss!  OK, I’ll begin with what I see as one of the most important lessons that you can learn.

 ???Question???

- Do you see life as something that happens to you?

- Or are you the type of person who recognises the multitude of choices you have every day and therefore how the decisions you take will create your world?

 You may not have even thought about it before!

 As an example, suppose you’re in a job that you really dislike.

On the one hand you could grumble about the hours, the pay, the type of work, how boring it is and how you’ve just got to carry on with it because we’re in a recession and there aren’t any other jobs around that you could do.

On the other hand you could actually recognise that you do have a choice. At the moment it suits you to get the regular salary and be doing work you’re familiar with. This could give you the stability to do some other training, which means next year you can find another job that will pay better, be more interesting and give you a better work/life balance.

It’s pretty obvious which is the more helpful mindset to adopt.

 How about an example regarding someone’s eating habits. On the one hand they might say, “Whenever I see a bar of chocolate it’s just crying out for me to eat it!”

Or on the other hand they could say, “A lot of the time when I see a chocolate bar, for some reason I choose to eat it!”

 And I could give examples of these different ways off thinking in every area of life.

 It’s about empowerment – cause and effect.

If you’re on the effect side of life, just accepting things as the way they are and it’s all out of your hands, then how are you going to change anything?

The ‘at cause’ person who recognises the choices they have is empowered – empowered to take that all important first step to change themselves for the better and get what they want.

If you can choose to do something that isn’t particularly helpful to you, then sure as eggs is eggs you can choose to not do it!

 So, be honest now… which side are you on? J

 Best wishes

David

 David Harding Adv DHyp MHA MANLP MTLTA™  is a qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master Practitioner of NLP, Master Practitioner of Time Line Therapy™ and Life Coach. He helps clients from his home town of Oxted on the Surrey/ Kent border, and also a wide surrounding area including Westerham, Sevenoaks, Orpington, Caterham, Croydon, Redhill and Reigate.