Do you often wonder why you’re stuck back in the same old place where you definitely don’t want to be?

Have a listen to yourself and maybe those around you.

People tend to be very good at knowing what they don’t want, but not quite so good at saying what they do.

A good example of this is when someone is looking to lose some weight. They might say something like “I don’t want to be overweight. I don’t want to wear unfashionable clothes. I hate feeling unattractive. I don’t want to be unhealthy. Being so lethargic and having such a lack of energy is really getting me down.”

Ok, so here’s an interesting thing. Your mind cannot directly process a negative.

Go ahead and do this simple example – think of anything in the whole world (or even universe) but do not, and I mean definitely not, think of a blue elephant.

 Right, I don’t know exactly what your blue elephant looks like, is wearing or what it’s doing, but you are thinking of one aren’t you!

 Back to the subject of weight. What are diets doing? Well, they’re telling you what you’re ‘allowed’ and also in a big way what you’re not allowed – and they’re called things like sins, forbidden food etc. If you’re told “Don’t eat cake. Don’t eat chocolate”, your mind is processing it as “Eat cake…don’t. Eat chocolate…don’t.” How much more difficult does this make it?

 So, how would it be if you focus on what you actually want?

Healthy, radiant skin, full of energy, physically fit, a certain dress/trouser size, able to walk/run/cycle a certain distance, eating healthy foods, confident, attractive, feeling great, happy!

Well, I suggest that you’re in a completely different, and better place.

And this can apply to any area of your life.

 

Why not give me a call or send me an email to see how I can help you change your way of thinking and move you towards what you really want! 

 Best wishes

David

 David Harding Adv DHyp MHA MANLP MTLTA™  is a qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master Practitioner of NLP, Master Practitioner of Time Line Therapy™ and Life Coach. He helps clients from his home town of Oxted on the Surrey/ Kent border, and also a wide surrounding area including Westerham, Sevenoaks, Orpington, Caterham, Croydon, Redhill and Reigate.

Welcome to the first of many blogs that I hope will be of use to anyone wanting to make some changes in their life.

 So, out of a myriad of subjects where shall I start?! So much to discuss!  OK, I’ll begin with what I see as one of the most important lessons that you can learn.

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- Do you see life as something that happens to you?

- Or are you the type of person who recognises the multitude of choices you have every day and therefore how the decisions you take will create your world?

 You may not have even thought about it before!

 As an example, suppose you’re in a job that you really dislike.

On the one hand you could grumble about the hours, the pay, the type of work, how boring it is and how you’ve just got to carry on with it because we’re in a recession and there aren’t any other jobs around that you could do.

On the other hand you could actually recognise that you do have a choice. At the moment it suits you to get the regular salary and be doing work you’re familiar with. This could give you the stability to do some other training, which means next year you can find another job that will pay better, be more interesting and give you a better work/life balance.

It’s pretty obvious which is the more helpful mindset to adopt.

 How about an example regarding someone’s eating habits. On the one hand they might say, “Whenever I see a bar of chocolate it’s just crying out for me to eat it!”

Or on the other hand they could say, “A lot of the time when I see a chocolate bar, for some reason I choose to eat it!”

 And I could give examples of these different ways off thinking in every area of life.

 It’s about empowerment – cause and effect.

If you’re on the effect side of life, just accepting things as the way they are and it’s all out of your hands, then how are you going to change anything?

The ‘at cause’ person who recognises the choices they have is empowered – empowered to take that all important first step to change themselves for the better and get what they want.

If you can choose to do something that isn’t particularly helpful to you, then sure as eggs is eggs you can choose to not do it!

 So, be honest now… which side are you on? J

 Best wishes

David

 David Harding Adv DHyp MHA MANLP MTLTA™  is a qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master Practitioner of NLP, Master Practitioner of Time Line Therapy™ and Life Coach. He helps clients from his home town of Oxted on the Surrey/ Kent border, and also a wide surrounding area including Westerham, Sevenoaks, Orpington, Caterham, Croydon, Redhill and Reigate.